Maybe it's just me, but probably not.

This one is vulnerable friends and written to the women out there, but also for the men.  I am ushering it out the publishing door and into the great big world with my heart on my sleeves.  But maybe, just maybe, you will relate, understand and even be able to communicate even just a little better next time because of what I am about to share.  If that’s true, I write this for you.

As a wife, a mom of four adolescent girls, a youth leader, a family c...

How to Talk to Someone Who Will Not See Truth Right Now

In the world there are as many variations of truth as there are perspectives it seems.  I was told once that there are always 3 truths at play when it comes to perspective and human relations.

1. Theirs
2. Yours
3. The non-emotional 3^rd party truth

This is one of the many reasons why I am so glad that I have a firm foundation in the ultimate truth in my life (John 14:6).  I floundered for 35 years on this planet trying to define and d...

Remember the Monster’s Inc. character, Roz, when she slowly grumbles, “Always watching” at the end of the movie with her pointed eyeglasses sitting intimidatingly on the bridge of her nose?  Yeah, well, this is the same with kids.  They are always watching. 

How many sitcoms have played off kids repeating the words adults say around them and get in trouble for it or, even closer to home, how many times have you gotten frustrated at your kids for having a reaction to something only to realize...

Even though the word “confidence” has roots all the way back to the 1300’s, when it meant trust and reliance on someone else, it shifted to more focus on self in the 1500’s. Then, in the last 60 or so years it has morphed again into a word emphasizing self-assurance, boldness and many times lack of compassion and grace with a big side of sass and stubbornness.

I love learning about the history of language.  It gives me perspective on the initial intent behind something when the first person ...

I will be the first to admit that I have not been great at this as a person in my own personal wellness journey or (gulp confession) even as a parent with my own kids sometimes.  Ironically, I help those not as close to me whom I mentor and guide in life best.  Why is that the case sometimes?  That is honestly an easy question to answer… because we have less emotions intertwined with our guidance for those not in our inner circle.  (PS- This is why mentoring, coaching, counseling and therapy can...

A few summers ago, my family and I were hiking in the Appalachian mountains.  It was fun, beautiful, serene even… except for my one daughter who really didn’t want to be there and somehow was the only one to acquire legit stinging nettle wounds that only reinforced her anti-everything adolescent mindset of the afternoon.  After stopping for a bite to eat and catching our breathe from a steep, off trail, climb my husband challenged us to, we got underway again.

With dogs running zig zag patte...

Parenting is hard.  When you have to say no to something they really want or yes to something they are dreading.  When natural and corrective consequences come and all you want to do is hug them and take it for them, but you know they will not build the strength life demands without these trials.  When their brain is under construction, and you seem to be speaking two different languages, when everything has to be an argument or when isolation and silence is deafening.

No parent I have ever ...

I was doing some research earlier this week all about what we bring into relationships.  The research had all to do with workplace relationships and friendships, but it shined a new perspective into parenting and leading youth for me. 

The research begs the question…

What are each of us bringing into this parenting and leading role?

When you go for a job interview you need to supply a resume, even those first jobs my girls have gotten scooping ice cream and seating eager pizza patrons. ...

Since this article is coming out ON Valentine’s Day it just seemed appropriate to focus some attention on this prescribed love day, especially when it comes to our young daughters, but maybe not in the “love struck, cherub shooting, box of chocolates” way you think.

Working with adolescent girls and families and leaders raising them you can imagine that I hear the full spectrum of “I hate this hallmark holiday” to, “I am so excited for Valentine’s!!” to, my favorite, “I will neeeeeveeeeerrrr...

 “When do I step in and help?”.

This is a very common question for any parent or leader of youth.  It is so hard to sit on the side lines of someone’s life that you care for and have sacrificed for and NOT help when you see a struggle, but should you?  Maybe aaaannnnd… maybe not.

Any parent who has been to a sports event their child is participating in knows exactly how this feels.  They have been to practice for months, maybe years, been led and taught and then when the time comes to do...